Some people watch lots of porn and feel totally fine afterwards, and others discover that too much of it, or certain kinds of porn, takes a toll on their emotional state, mental health, romantic relationships, or productivity. Does it seem to have a negative effect on your life? It’s of course not easy to discern this from a random Pornhub clip, so you usually have to seek out (and pay for) content that specifically advertises itself as “ethical porn.” Following and directly paying the performers, not the sites or production companies, is a good way to know for sure whether the porn you’re consuming is ethical. It’s also worth looking into whether the porn was produced in a legal, safe, and pro-worker environment. Here’s a great exploration of what feminist porn can entail.
The next time you come across seemingly racist or sexist porn, give some thought as to whether the porn you’re watching is self-aware and feminist, rather than simply reproducing bigotry.
Porn that portrays fantasies about nonconsensual sex, for instance, isn’t necessarily misogynist if it centers all characters’ pleasure and agency. And the vast majority of porn seems to be made with the male gaze in mind, placing little focus on the specifics of female pleasure or desire.įantasy is far from a cut-and-dried issue, and it often depends on the context. But watching porn to learn about sex is, as one sex educator put it, “like watching The Fast and the Furious to learn how to drive.” To say that most porn is unrealistic is an understatement some porn creators care more about realism than others, but in many cases the wild positions, dramatic moans, and effortless female orgasms play out more like outlandish caricatures of real sex. I want to be super-crystal clear about something: Porn is not a substitute for sex education! It makes total sense that you’re watching porn because you’re curious about sex, especially considering the country’s embarrassingly subpar sex education curricula. Here are some questions to think about if you find yourself seeking out porn, regardless of whether you’re over 18: Am I using it for sex education?
But porn does contain some ethical, emotional, and educational landmines that you should dodge whenever possible. Porn can be a great way to explore fantasies and stoke arousal, and plenty of people watch porn with no adverse effect on their lives. Even though porn is legal and easily accessible nowadays, I still highly recommend exercising caution while consuming it.
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